I’m the mother of an adorable, hyperactive 16 month young boy. He goes into all the nooks and crannies of the house, climbs on to the sofas and chairs, and what I’m told by everyone is, “he’s a boy and that’s what boys do, get used to it”.
He is now being trained to use a tumbler instead of his sippy cup or straw cup that he adored. The tumbler in question is pink, and very obviously, I’m asked “why does he have a pink glass?”.
My point here being, do we confine our children to choices and behaviours that we deem fit for their gender? I think the answer is yes, though we probably do it unknowingly, but we do. My parenting choices are questioned time and again, because hey, my baby is just 16 months old, and I’m just a 16 month young mother. Why show them the world limited by the blinkers that our perceptions form? Do we let misbehavior or demureness become a part of our child’s personality and glorify it?
The answer lies in us looking at a gender neutral parenting approach. Let a boy wear a floral shirt or a girl play with cars, let their young minds get inspired by all that is around them, let them fly and soar, and let them make their own choices, maybe sometimes that’ll need guidance, but that will also be a learning.
Don’t mistake me for saying that let them run loose, I’m just saying to let them be free, learn to do what they like or think what they like, let them experiment, make their own choices, stumble, fall and learn to rise again.
Let’s not limit their world to pink or blue, to cars or dolls or anything that is supposed to be a part of what their gender should like. Letting them find their own space to ultimately carve a niche for themselves will not happen on one fine day, it is a slow, time-taking process, whose roots lie in what we do now, let them fly!
Let us try doing best for the responsibility bestowed upon us to be parents and keep our children above everything else any of the Sharma Ji’s, Gupta Ji’s or any other Ji’s say.
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